Malaysian parents should be less conservative and more sensible

**situation 1**
Daughter : Mom can i go watch movies with my friend tomorrow?
Mom: NO! Didn't you just went out 2 days ago? You cannot go out so soon!

**situation 2**
Son : Dad im going over to the mamak stall in front to have a drink!
Dad: who says you can go out!? you stay at home and study!

Have you ever encountered this situation before? Now, what do you do when they do not let you out? do you study? No you end up sitting on the couch switching the channels on the TV and keep on wondering why is your life so boring.

Do you think your parents were right? Why do they say all that? Have you ever thought that in truth, your parents are just being not sensible? Parents are humans too, they make mistakes. It doesn't mean that what they say is always right.

But why do we keep on listening? because they are our parents. And we believe parents have a good reason for doing anything at all. Why not we think about the reasons ourself right now!? Come, since we are all buncha bored people and our parents do not let us out, let us figure it out together:P

Lets figure out the logic of why we cannot go out so often? Every single reason i can think of sounds dumb. Parents want us to stay at home and not go out too often because......
i cant think of a reason:P
WELL, why can't you!? YES,you went out two days ago! then what is wrong with going out again now? you stayed at home for the past 2 days, didnt you? then,you deserve to go out again then! nothing wrong with that! I mean,it was fine to go out 2 days ago, they let you, what is wrong with doing so again now!? It is not like you are going to commit a crime!

Some parents say it is a waste of money to go out so often.Well, then parents should give their children pocket money monthly, then, let them spend it wisely. If they go out too often, they will be out of money, no? This way, they also learn how to manage their finance better. See, we actually found reasons why going out is important, compared to NOT going out, coz it certainly serves no purpose!

Parents are afraid that if you go out too often, you might mix with the wrong gang and do the wrong stuff. THEN, get to know your children's friends! Talk to them, find out who they going out with, organize a small party and invite her friends over, get to know her friends, if you really do not trust your kids so much, then you should get to know the people they hang out with. If you do not like them, then you can advise your kids. If you like them, then what is wrong with going out?

Parents believe that giving too much freedom to their children can be misused. But in truth, controlling the kids can cause worst effects. They want to hang out, but they know their parents do not let. So what do they do? They lie, they say they have extra class in school, or they will skip tuition classes to go out. I mean, isn't this worst? lack of freedom ALWAYS causes your child to rebel at the back of you! Do you want your child to turn out to be a pro liar?

Some parents treat their 18 year old kids no different than their 12 year old. Parents often have a tough time accepting the fact that their children are now young adults. Imagine a 21 year old person cannot go out to a movie because her mom doesn't let her ( dont laugh, there is such a person). HELL, you can already vote when you are 21! they let you decide the fate of the country at that age, and you listen to your mom when she asks you to stay at home for no apparent reason?

What about having a boyfriend/girlfriend!? Now this is an interesting topic. People couple up even at the age of 13,heck,even younger (monkey love,but still:P). Now, why does a 17,18,19 year old teenage cannot have a boyfriend? why do your parents do not let you? they worry your studies will drop? then, prove to them it wont! Teenage age is the right age to mix around with the opposite sex, get to understand this love thingy more and learn about life more. And falling in love is part of the process of growing up, and i know you guys know it as well. Why do your parents not let you?

Parents expect you to listen to everything they say. Even when you know they are wrong, you quietly obediently listen. If you believed you have grown up, you know what is wrong and what is right, then why not make a move and tell your parents your opinion? You might argue they might not listen and they might nag and argue back...do they do that? So, now your parents just demonstrated how much of respect they actually have for your own opinion. You guys ain't dolls, you are smart and you know what is right, then why do the wrong thing?

WHY WHY WHY WHY!? i asked that question SOO MAANY times today. In the end, we can easily come to conclusion. Some parents are just not sensible. WHAT is the word that will prove us the solution. WHAT can we do? rebel. yeaps, you heard me. Do not Rebel by throwing things around and being childish, rebel smartly. Prove to your parents that you have grown up, you know what is right and wrong. If your parents say you cant go out for no apparent reason,ask them why. If they cant answer and they give the nagging method with the useless " i am your mother you listen!" answer, fight back. Fight back politely, keep your voice low, be smart. And most importantly, never be afraid. What is the worst they can do? Cut your allowance? if you aren't going out, why do you even need them:P? They gonna slap you? you are a teenager, will slap really hurt so much? the best answer when they just are so stubborn and insist you to follow their way for no apparent reason, give the answer " how childish you are".
it stings:P

Don't say you don't want to hurt your parents, cause they certainly never think twice before hurting you did they?

For parents, you need to learn to accept the fact that your children are growing up. They need more space and freedom to discover who they are. Shutting them in your small world is not a good idea, give them the freedom they desire, but do not make it excessive and monitor them. If you do your job right, you will have a happy family:)

Yeah right, you can say i am a spoilt brat who just hates his parents. Nopez, i love my parents. They let me do ANYTHING i want. I don't smoke, I don't drink, in fact, i believe i have been a pretty good kid back then:) Parents gave me the freedom to do what i want at the age of 15, and i have never misused it. Educate you're kids and trust them, it would not be so hard.

Being a parent is hard job. You got to constantly worry about your children all the time. But they will grow up, learn to be more independent and be able to think smartly and take care of themselves if they are given the freedom to do so. Guys, if you're parents are the conservative type, i suggest you start doing some adjustments in your life:)