Malaysian parents should be less conservative and more sensible

**situation 1**
Daughter : Mom can i go watch movies with my friend tomorrow?
Mom: NO! Didn't you just went out 2 days ago? You cannot go out so soon!

**situation 2**
Son : Dad im going over to the mamak stall in front to have a drink!
Dad: who says you can go out!? you stay at home and study!

Have you ever encountered this situation before? Now, what do you do when they do not let you out? do you study? No you end up sitting on the couch switching the channels on the TV and keep on wondering why is your life so boring.

Do you think your parents were right? Why do they say all that? Have you ever thought that in truth, your parents are just being not sensible? Parents are humans too, they make mistakes. It doesn't mean that what they say is always right.

But why do we keep on listening? because they are our parents. And we believe parents have a good reason for doing anything at all. Why not we think about the reasons ourself right now!? Come, since we are all buncha bored people and our parents do not let us out, let us figure it out together:P

Lets figure out the logic of why we cannot go out so often? Every single reason i can think of sounds dumb. Parents want us to stay at home and not go out too often because......
i cant think of a reason:P
WELL, why can't you!? YES,you went out two days ago! then what is wrong with going out again now? you stayed at home for the past 2 days, didnt you? then,you deserve to go out again then! nothing wrong with that! I mean,it was fine to go out 2 days ago, they let you, what is wrong with doing so again now!? It is not like you are going to commit a crime!

Some parents say it is a waste of money to go out so often.Well, then parents should give their children pocket money monthly, then, let them spend it wisely. If they go out too often, they will be out of money, no? This way, they also learn how to manage their finance better. See, we actually found reasons why going out is important, compared to NOT going out, coz it certainly serves no purpose!

Parents are afraid that if you go out too often, you might mix with the wrong gang and do the wrong stuff. THEN, get to know your children's friends! Talk to them, find out who they going out with, organize a small party and invite her friends over, get to know her friends, if you really do not trust your kids so much, then you should get to know the people they hang out with. If you do not like them, then you can advise your kids. If you like them, then what is wrong with going out?

Parents believe that giving too much freedom to their children can be misused. But in truth, controlling the kids can cause worst effects. They want to hang out, but they know their parents do not let. So what do they do? They lie, they say they have extra class in school, or they will skip tuition classes to go out. I mean, isn't this worst? lack of freedom ALWAYS causes your child to rebel at the back of you! Do you want your child to turn out to be a pro liar?

Some parents treat their 18 year old kids no different than their 12 year old. Parents often have a tough time accepting the fact that their children are now young adults. Imagine a 21 year old person cannot go out to a movie because her mom doesn't let her ( dont laugh, there is such a person). HELL, you can already vote when you are 21! they let you decide the fate of the country at that age, and you listen to your mom when she asks you to stay at home for no apparent reason?

What about having a boyfriend/girlfriend!? Now this is an interesting topic. People couple up even at the age of 13,heck,even younger (monkey love,but still:P). Now, why does a 17,18,19 year old teenage cannot have a boyfriend? why do your parents do not let you? they worry your studies will drop? then, prove to them it wont! Teenage age is the right age to mix around with the opposite sex, get to understand this love thingy more and learn about life more. And falling in love is part of the process of growing up, and i know you guys know it as well. Why do your parents not let you?

Parents expect you to listen to everything they say. Even when you know they are wrong, you quietly obediently listen. If you believed you have grown up, you know what is wrong and what is right, then why not make a move and tell your parents your opinion? You might argue they might not listen and they might nag and argue back...do they do that? So, now your parents just demonstrated how much of respect they actually have for your own opinion. You guys ain't dolls, you are smart and you know what is right, then why do the wrong thing?

WHY WHY WHY WHY!? i asked that question SOO MAANY times today. In the end, we can easily come to conclusion. Some parents are just not sensible. WHAT is the word that will prove us the solution. WHAT can we do? rebel. yeaps, you heard me. Do not Rebel by throwing things around and being childish, rebel smartly. Prove to your parents that you have grown up, you know what is right and wrong. If your parents say you cant go out for no apparent reason,ask them why. If they cant answer and they give the nagging method with the useless " i am your mother you listen!" answer, fight back. Fight back politely, keep your voice low, be smart. And most importantly, never be afraid. What is the worst they can do? Cut your allowance? if you aren't going out, why do you even need them:P? They gonna slap you? you are a teenager, will slap really hurt so much? the best answer when they just are so stubborn and insist you to follow their way for no apparent reason, give the answer " how childish you are".
it stings:P

Don't say you don't want to hurt your parents, cause they certainly never think twice before hurting you did they?

For parents, you need to learn to accept the fact that your children are growing up. They need more space and freedom to discover who they are. Shutting them in your small world is not a good idea, give them the freedom they desire, but do not make it excessive and monitor them. If you do your job right, you will have a happy family:)

Yeah right, you can say i am a spoilt brat who just hates his parents. Nopez, i love my parents. They let me do ANYTHING i want. I don't smoke, I don't drink, in fact, i believe i have been a pretty good kid back then:) Parents gave me the freedom to do what i want at the age of 15, and i have never misused it. Educate you're kids and trust them, it would not be so hard.

Being a parent is hard job. You got to constantly worry about your children all the time. But they will grow up, learn to be more independent and be able to think smartly and take care of themselves if they are given the freedom to do so. Guys, if you're parents are the conservative type, i suggest you start doing some adjustments in your life:)

Malaysian Men should not be stereotypical

FINALLY,I'm back here..been away for a very long time,no thanks to final examinations and so many incidents that kept on happening in my life..sigh...Either way,this post i wanted to write MONTHS ago,and now i have the chance to do so:)

And so,i have planned to write about Malaysian men. Firstly, before i get whacked by the men, not everyone are like this. but sadly, i seem to be surrounded by MANY of them:D!! If you terasa, that means I'm talking about you la:P

It is men's nature to be naughty. (straight to the point huh?) . Guys want to have fun, they want to flirt, get to know new girls, heck, if things get better, they want to fling, and if they get REALLLY lucky, they want to end up sleeping with her. WOW, doesn't that just sound amazingly FUN!?!??! of course it is, and in return, since not all girls are "fling-able", they got to target those that are such,and try to have fun with them.
Yes, guys love to do it so much, then, why do they end up calling this "fling-able" girls "slut,whore,bitch" and stuff? i mean, it might sound naughty if you do that in bed:P, but it certainly isn't nice to say that about a girl that you want to have fun with! You want girls to be like that, so when they ARE like that, WHY do you complain about how they are?

" that girl is a slut la..she just goes to club, dance with guys and sleep with them" - quoted from someone:P

now,that does seem like as thought he doesnt like her,right? but in truth, he WANTS to go to club with her, dance with her and sleep with her too!! then, WHY COMPLAIN!?

Then,there is the type of guys that categorize girls. There are a few categories of course, such as "homely", " naughty" , " too commited" and quite a few more. but, how do they categorize them? MOST TYPICALLY, by the clothes they wear. yes, while at times, it might reflect that person, but it is totally unfair to categorize girls according to the clothes they wear. Just because a girl wears a spaghetti strap and short skirt, that doesnt make her kinky or naughty. She could be just fashionable, and she might actually be a very modest nice girl. And trust me, if a girl covers up from top to bottom, that doesnt mean she is a good girl AT ALL! clothes, are misleading. fashion is actually:P i once had a friend who saw a girl walking by and said " she looks like she wants to be fucked"......................
WOW! he must a psycic!! i wonder how he knows that!? his answer was, " yeah,look at what she is wearing!" and when i did,she was wearing a tshirt and jeans. yes, they are tight, but then again, she has a very nice body, so the clothes she wear happen to fit her nicely.i BET no guy would want to see a girl in baggy tshirt and super baggy pants and u can never see a girls bodyshape, no?

lets forget clothing. lets talk about attitude. Guys, LOVE to flirt and play around with girls. it seems sooo fun for them! Heck, some even do it eventhough they have a girlfriend! they just want to have fun,according to them. plus, its not so wrong, you are just flirting, not like you are cheating on anyone....yes...put it that way,reverse the position and see..if a girl flirts with another guy, they make it seem like a BIG SIN!! so what does that mean? guys can go around have fun and flirt with girls, but girls cant do the same? reason : " its just not ladylike" ...yes,and what you are doing is very "gentleman" isnt it? IF you do not like your girlfriend to flirt around, then dont do it yourself!!

Lets talk about the usual stuff people do. smoking and drinking. Its very common for guys to smoke and drink. in fact, it seems like a necessity to do that. the more you do it, the more 'gempak' you are! but what happens if a girl smokes? " oo..she is bad..how can a girl smoke? "
why suddenly the taboo:S? if a guy got drunk in a club,people go "yeah yeah whatever" if a girl gets drunk in a club " oh my god she got drunK!? u mean she actually DRINKS!?"
hell, some guys dont want their girlfriends to go to club, but they do so every week! such fairness, so SWEET:P

the best answer given to me why girls shouldnt smoke was " ya la..nanti diorang nak jadi emak kena mengandung kan?"....yeah and ur not part of the process of the " melakukan pengandungan?" in the end, your genes are gonna be there too!! so why does it make a difference? at the end of the day, if you dont like her to smoke, dont smoke yourself. its dumb when you ask someone to not do something, but then you do it yourself.

Lets talk about the fun part. SEX. guys love it SO MUCH (so do i:P LOL). but even though they love it, i have heard this one line too many times that i MUST mention it here.

" i wanna fuck my girlfriend but i want to marry a virgin"

thats like you are trying to say you want a girlfriend just for the sake of fucking her. check out the sincerity:P

if you know you are going to have fun earlier in life before you get married, then do expect to end up with a girl who has already had sex before.i mean, it is SEX! it is a fun thing , it should be people's hobby! dont take it too seriously if your wife is a virgin or not! coz certainly, YOU ARENT!

another quote " dont fuck your girlfriend. thats not nice. fuck another girl"

WOW! even better!!! that shows that he is really sincere! that he wants her to stay a virgin,and marry her later! such sincerity,*sob sob*
so he should just fuck another girl! i bet his girlfriend wont be jealous!
dude,if you HOLD HANDS with another girl, she will end up strangling you. you actually want to fuck someone else:P?
( shut up,i know what u are going to say. what she doesnt know doesnt hurt,right? BASTARD:P)

so, end to end, why some guys think of certain girls so badly? if a guy has many ex-girlfriends, he is such a cool and wanted guy.but if a girl has many ex-boyfriends, she is called "used too often". (you dont even know if she was used at all:S)

SOME guys, just seriously, need to change their attitude about girls. many, dont see them for anything more than "sex bombs"...girls can be more than that:) i am not saying all guys are such, but i am speaking about the typical ones. somehow, guys in overseas love kinky naughty girls,they want them as their girlfriends and they still will treat them nicely! (i know,i have plenty of overseas friends that i HAVE to talk to everyday:P)
but some guys here, they cant think of 'fun' girls and 'girfriend' material as the same girl itself. your girlfriend can be FUN and SWEET at the same time,no? why do you need two type of girls!? think about it, do not be too typical:)

*psst..if you terasa, sorry la wei:P i know i took some of you people's quotes, sorry, but heck, you remained anonymous:P*













PS: i dedicate this post a special girl who makes me smile every single day. Thank you very much for everything you have done for me:)